Who taught the man to criticize others? Maybe, maybe our ancestors who brought the inevitable dream of evolution come true. Maybe not. Our ancestral mind might think that it isn't a big thing.
An eight year old boy tries to climb a tree and he falls down. He tries again and again to just get hurt. A teenager looks at the boy, instead of encouraging or warning or walking away silently, he criticizes him before his friends. ‘You are never going to climb that, kiddo’ he says. Unable to withhold the criticism the boy forces himself vigorously up the tree. In an impulse of rage, he loses his balance and fells into the ground. The teenager shocked by the fall, being the elder brother of the boy, takes the boy to the hospital.
What did the teenager gained from the criticism? What did the elder brother gained from his criticism? Nothing. Nothing at all. Who in the world said that criticism is good? Going deep into criticism, it’s about the past, its’ always about the past. Criticism hides behind the shadow of a work done. The people who criticize go unknown to the world as well.
Most of the people in the world, taste sweet in tongue and bitter in heart. That bitterness can be tasted sometimes, only sometimes, in the form of criticism. Criticizing is bitter; criticizing others in their absence is the bitter most. It would have been better if the people in this world would have followed the things said by their own idols. The things regarding love, compassion and peace.
‘Indeed, how criticisms are given and received goes a long way in determining how satisfied people are with their work, with those they work with, and with whom they are responsible’ as Daniel Goleman says in his book, ‘Emotional Intelligence’. It’s a pure matter of the people who rub elbows with you in work, whom you are responsible for and the satisfaction of the work.
There are three kind of positive approaches that can be shown towards a work done:
· Praising- the act of supporting a work and following the method in the same way as the work is done.
· Innovating- the act of feeling unsatisfied by a work and remodeling or rejuvenating the earlier work or making a new, more brilliant advanced work.
· Walking away- the act of doing nothing as the work seems uninterested.
More interestingly, the world does the above things but in a different way. They praise the works which yields them profit, even though they didn’t like it or attain any interest on the work. People innovate the truth with lies. They spread rumors which fells nastily in the ears of the truth. And, people do another thing as well. They turn a deaf ear to the injustice around them. They walk away from their mere duty of being a human.
Criticism is just big as world’s mouth. Criticizing criticism is also somewhat big. Rather than just arguing it’s better to come to a conclusion. Criticize if you can make a better work than the criticized, this means that your are lowering or heightening your level to the level of the criticized. Asking our ancestors’ help, let’s hope to set a goal of improvement, and jump to the other branches of life than the frail branch of criticism.
- Alan Giftson
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